As you find yourself become a sudden homeschooling mom, the concept of self care just seems to fade away into the abyss. I highly recommend you pull it back out before you find your whole self trapped in there. Think of your self care as your very own special personal cup. This cup is filled with love, excitement, joy, and laughter. throughout the day your kids and your significant other will drink from your cup. but what happens when that cup is empty? I assure you that cup will start to to be filed with hate, resentment, anger, and scolding. Whatever this cup is filled with will reflect your homeschooling home.
But how can we possibly have the time to self care? Sometimes self care will take form at 6 am or at midnight, somethings it takes form in a dark closet, or in the bathroom for the 2 minutes you were able to slip away. Somethings will take form in being locked in you bedroom, or leaving the house completely. The 9 “Daily Mommy Mes” are here to help you. You do not have to do them all, but it is important to continually strive to, because this check list is here to help you stop and remember to fill your cup.
Cleanse Me: Personal hygiene is must; shower, brush hair, teeth brushing, change out of those PJs. Spiritual cleanse is equally as important. Find time to cleanse your heart. It can be early int he morning when things are silent, late at night right before you sleep, or mid day slippimg away from the nosie.
Challenge Me: Not only are you expanding the mind of the young people you are in charge of, but you need to expand your mind too. Read a book with new information, practice a skill you want to enhance. Watch a documentary of a subject you don’t know much about. Or even bake/cook a new dish you never made before.
Balance Me: Yes, you are stuck at home, but you have to find a balance between me time and us time. This might mean sending them off to bed early, no matter the struggle. locking yourself in the bedroom to work. Leaving them with another adult at home so you can walk outside. Or even YOU choosing the activity to be done and if they want to join they can, if not oh well.
Connect Me: Connect with other adults. this can be with your significant other, or a phone call to a friend. social media is great in connecting people too. Have a healthy conversation on a forum or in your DM. make a whatsapp group with all you friends to send positive vibes to each other. It’s vital to connect with the adult word.
Unwind Me: Find something that helps you relax. Maybe you lay down on the floor and the kids walk on you back (a great message by the way). Go exercise. Take a second shower. Buy a new outfit. Pray. Read or write. Dance to your favorite song. Whatever it is, find it, make sure it is healthy, and do it.
Self Validate Me: Speak to yourself. When you’re frustrated and angry about something not going your way, take a step back and avoid judging yourself for those feelings. Sit with your emotions without reacting to them. Don’t tell yourself how you should feel. Accept how you do feel in the moment because you always have a right to feel. Comfort yourself the way a concerned and compassionate parent would.
A Mindful Me: Feeling overwhelmed? Stop what you’re doing. Close your eyes. Take five deep breaths from the belly. Follow them in through the nose and out through the mouth. Sit down, observe your surroundings. Find 5 curvy things. Find 10 things your are grateful for. Message you neck and feet. Give your brain things to think about besides obsess.
Reality Check Me: Set realistic goals. You will have bad days and good days. If a goal is not being obtained or is being obtained too easily, revisit it abd change it.
Recharge Me: Sleep. Prioritize it. Housework will always be there (make the kids to do it by the way). Drink water. After all you are 60% water.